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Back and gone again….

So, if you’ve been following me at all you know by now that not much has happened on this blog for  quite some time. And as much as I wanted to keep up some good content, I just did not have it in me to write here… My apologies!
As it turned out, taking what I thought at the time was the toughest kick in the balls ever, actually was probably the best thing that ever happened to me.
I’ll let you be the judge, here’s the story:
As you might remember I moved back from Cyprus to Sweden in late December 2015 to be with my wife, just to learn that she “needed time for herself” which then turned out she wanted a divorce. 
As my good friend Mark J likes to say: “You gotta love irony!”
To say I was shocked was an understatement and getting the news in small pieces didn’t help much…
I even asked her if there was someone else which she denied.
Anyway, she moved out, got her stuff and on February 8th the divorce was sealed in court. I remember writing in my journal that this was somehow a relief as it finalized the matter and I could walk away from the last hope of a reunion. What if I’d know…
With perfect timing I went to Holland just before Easter to participate in a plant medicin healing ceremony March 24-25 were I finally leveraged what I learned the last years and released a horrific feeling of inadequacy I had carried since the age of 10 and that had been ever present over the years. Suddenly it was no more and I’m convinced that if it hadn’t been for the work with MK I couldn’t have done it this time either.
The same week my ex wife had returned to Cyprus for a few days to get the things she left in the apartment and I found it difficult to understand at the time why she flew down for 4 days when I just as well could bring her things with me to Sweden in June.
Meeting her for lunch the following Tuesday to get the key for the Cyprus apartment back she tells me she met someone and I said something like “well, that was likely to happen sooner or later”.
She then discloses that it’s her therapeut and teacher whom I referred her to years earlier and I always considered a friend.
As I had told several mutual friends, who’d asked me about them, that he never would behave so unethically and out of integrity, I could not help to break out in a booming laughter…
Later that week I met with him over a coffee and he reveals that Maria has flirted with him and hit on him since the fall of 2013, 6 months+ before she and I married.
While I’ll never gonna be able to understand how someone can enter a marriage and at the same time hit on another guy (and that’s probably a good thing not to understand) I had a really hard time accepting and digesting that I’d been living 2,5 years in a lie of someone else’s making.
I felt betrayed, used, played with and deserted…
The upside was that the old ugly feeling of inadequacy was still gone and the whole situation must sort of have been the ultimate test for that 😉
After a couple of months with Netflix and HBO therapy (with or without some red wine), working through the last season of Game of Thrones, the entire Vikings and True Blood as well as some more I already forgotten, I had the opportunity to focus on service to other people at the live events in Kauaii. Returning from that beautiful island in much better shape, with deepened friendships, lots of new good friends and so many reminders how wonderful, honest and sincere people really can be.
What finally did it for me was going into the mountains for a good two weeks by myself (totally different story starting here: http://offthegridhiker.com/tours/the-start-hike-of-2016-day-1/).
For months doing almost anything to avoid thinking I threw myself into an environment where thinking was about the only thing I had to engage in, besides walking, of course. 
Same parts of the tour demanded total focus with every step, though for the most part my thoughts could wander freely and about 14 days in it hit me like a sledge hammer….
 
In late spring 2011 I met a girl who was still in her previous marriage, explaining to me that it was over in every other way than on paper and they were more or less like sister and brother living together. Still it took more than 10 month to convince her to get divorced as she didn’t “want to hurt his feelings”.
 
So, how blind must I have been…?
 
Getting into a relationship with a woman who proved to me from the start that she, without a shadow of a doubt, was ok with cheating and starting a new relationship while still married…
And I seriously thought that, just because we talked about it and she agreed to be upfront, she would suddenly change in that matter…
 
Oh, oh, oh…sh*****t….
 
Law of karma at work here and I was certainly NOT consciously aware of the consequences of my choice back then 😜
 
I can tell you it took all my training to not giving myself grief about it but accept the learning experience and take 100% responsibility for my choices…
 
…and as I did the pain went away, I felt alive, really thrivingly awesome, for the first time in months.
 
The really amazing thing here is that, as I just talked to my mastermind partner about, only recently I observed that “being the observer” and “conscious about the consequences of my choices at the time I make them” had become natural in my life.
I don’t know if two years is an average, short och prolonged time span to “get there”, though I can only say that it’s been worth all the struggle!
 
Anyway, there’s the story behind my absence from this blog and the reason why I’m moving over to masterkey.offthegridhiker.com
Hope to see you there, naturally I continue email about new posts and other goodies!
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Peace // Claes

Master Key – Week 2: What target do you shoot for?

Is it the right target for You?
Or are you striving to live up to someone else’s idea of who and what you should be?

It’s week 2 of the #MasterKeyExperience and new members just learned about PPN’s, that’s short for Personal Pivoting Needs, and got to chose the two most important to them selves.
There are seven in total:Oxygen-is-a-big-deal-astronaut-t-shirt

  • Liberty
  • Legacy
  • Autonomy
  • Helping Others
  • True Health
  • Spiritual Growth
  • Recognition for Creative Expression

Our PPN’s are equally important for our happiness as the air we breath is to our body, in fact we call them “Oxygen for the Soul”.

target-successNot knowing which ones to shoot for is setting ourselves up to live ‘lives of quite desperation’ as the goals we set and achieve in life must be in line with our PPN’n to have any real value. Even if we hit our desired target it’s only really worth something as the target is in line with and brings us the oxygen for our soul.

So, if you haven’t given this some serious thought, yet. Please do so now and I’d love a comment below on which to PPN’s are most important to You!

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To decide or not to decide – that´s the question…

This is the week after the MKMMA Live Event in Kauai 2015, showcasing one of the most life changing,mind boggling and valuable events of my life I´M almost overwhelmed be the support, love and connection I feel from all the wonderful people I´ve met during these days.
The MK experience is all about taking charge of our life and to learn a very practical way of doing just that – I wish it upon You and Your loved ones, give it a shot and see how You like Your “new You”!

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What does it mean???

Driving around the south-western part of the USA for some weeks now has got me face to face with quite a lot of different road signs, billboards and other visual information.
Just let me start by saying I thought Sweden was overly protective in guiding traffic… Nothing back there prepared me for the warnings I see over here in the states!
Let´s take a look…

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I´m not saying that road signs are the sole reason for people focusing on dangers, looking and preparing for impending doom, though, frankly, what do You think it leads to seeing these every day???

“Watch for Ice” @ 74℉ – come on…. 😀

Or what about my personal favorite?

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Hmmm, who would be dumb enough to drive a car into a temporary lake???
How should it make us feel that the government obviously thinks that we´re to stupid to look out for ourselves???

Well, basically it doesn´t matter!

As we can attach any meaning and feeling we want to anything we can choose how these signs make us feel 😉 …

Let me give You an example:

What does the sign below mean to You?

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Hmm, hopefully You didn´t answer “food” because the nutritional value of their stuff just don´t make it qualify 😀 !
(And, yes, that´s an opinion of mine – though based on professional knowledge and experience…)

Most people would connect this sign with fast food, happy meals (if You got kids), Ronald McDonald, Ray Kroc or the movie “Supersize Me”

I frankly never developed a relationship with McDonalds, never established the habit of visiting, never really liked their “food”.
So, that “Golden Arches” sign never meant much to me…
That has changed dramatically during this trip and now it means:

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So, what meaning do You give the signs You see every day? The places, persons and events of Your life?

McDonalds could mean “food” to You (and that could basically kill You) or “free Wi-Fi” to me (and let me get this blog posted).
It´s just a decision based on the laws of the mind, in this particular case the laws of “substitution” and “dual thoughts”!

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Week 20 – Fear or Faith?

“Fear is a powerful form of thought. It paralyzes the nerve centers, thus affecting
the circulation of the blood.
This, in turn, paralyzes the muscular system, so that fear affects the entire being,
body, brain and nerve, physical, mental, and muscular.”
Charles Haanel, “The Master Key System”, Part XIX

This start of the Master Key nineteenth chapter made me think of this piece from Pink Floyd´s famous album “The Wall”.

What is it that causes fear to be so common?

Everybody knows that we´re only born with two fears:

  1. Fear of LOUD NOICES
  2. Fear of FALLING

So one must conclude that every other fear is learned behavior….

Where did we learn it?

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Might it be that all the media input we receive everyday does actually NOT mirror the true state of this world?
That the human population is bombarded with negative images and messages just because they sell?
Or is it actually a way to control the population by paralyzing it through fear?

I leave it to You to chose the degree of conspiracy here….

You don´t need an enormous amount of critical thinking, though, to see that some counter measures are definitely potentially helpful!

Here are a few good ones to start:

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We can all find the solution to living a life of FAITH and PURPOSE in our own thought, Haanel puts it into writing beautifully:

17. You may know that thought constantly, eternally is taking form, is forever seeking expression, or you may not, but the fact remains that if your thought is powerful, constructive, and positive, this will be plainly evident in the state of your health, your business and your environment; if your thought is weak, critical, destructive and negative generally, it will manifest in your body as fear, worry and nervousness, in your finance as lack and limitation, and in discordant conditions in your environment.
18. All wealth is the offspring of power; possessions are of value only as they confer power. Events are significant only as they affect power; all things represent certain forms and degrees of power.
19. A knowledge of cause and effect as shown by the laws governing steam, electricity, chemical affinity and gravitation enables men to plan courageously and to execute fearlessly. These laws are called Natural Laws, because they govern the physical world, but all power is not physical power; there is also mental power, and there is moral and spiritual power.
………
23. This power is superior because it exists on a higher plane, because it has enabled man to discover the law by which these wonderful forces of Nature could be harnessed and made to do the work of hundreds and thousands of men. It has enabled man to discover laws whereby time and space have been annihilated, and the law of gravitation overcome.
24. Thought is the vital force or energy which is being developed and which has produced such startling results in the last half century as to bring about a world which would be absolutely inconceivable to a man existing only 50 or 25 years ago. If such results have been secured by organizing these mental powerhouses in 50 years, what may not be expected in another 50 years?
25. The substance from which all things are created is infinite in quantity; we know that light travels at the rate of 186,000 miles per second, and we know that there are stars so remote that it takes light 2,000 years to reach us, and we know that such stars exist in all parts of the heaven; we know, too, that this light comes in waves, so that if the ether on which these waves travel was not continuous the light would fail to reach us; we can then only come to the conclusion that this substance, or ether, or raw material, is universally present.
Charles Haanel, “The Master Key System”, Part XIX

Let us end this week by joining the incomparable Jim Carrey and his message:

For those of You who want the whole speech:

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Week 19 – Stimulus – Choice – Response

So, I just the other day got seriously hit pretty hard by an experience leading to an insight that made me really ponder how far all this work has already got me!

My wife, the Marvelous Maria, and I were flying back to Larnaca from Stockholm and the flight schedule made us chose to stay one night in Athens rather than landing at 2AM in the morning, found a really nice hotel down at the waterfront and got a decent room, went for an early dinner and after the usual evening drill I went to bed at around 10.20PM.
In hindsight I know I had heard the guy in the next room for some time already, I just didn´t react being focused on he things at hand. Lying in bed I heard every word he said on the phone, he was literally yelling and seemed pretty upset about something.
Whatever, I just wrapped a towel around my waist, knocked at his door and asked him kindly to keep it down a little. Thinking that would do it I went back to bed and after a while it started all over again…
That guy got back on the phone, I got out of bed, same towel around the waist, knocking at the same door that got opened by the same guy telling me he´s not yelling at all but speaking in a normal tone of voice and not willing to keep it down for us to be able to sleep.

Drumroll….

Well, I just backed of, went down to the lobby and asked the guy at the reception to either go talk to my neighbor or give us another room – which he did (give us another room that is).

So, now what´s so special about this story (except me losing my self consciousness enough to move around “dressed” in a towel…)?

Not much, except that the person I was just months ago would have been provoked by the room neighbors behavior, picked up the glove and gotten into a loud and ugly argument (or worse)…
I was actually surprised that I didn´t even had to think about walking away, my ego didn´t even surface telling me that I was “right” and should “stand my ground” or some other BS that would have gotten me in trouble before!
My purpose was clear, I wanted us to be able to sleep undisturbed, and subconsciously I chose the fastest route to the accomplishment of this purpose!

Another (louder) DRUMROLL…

Just as the Master Key Experience taught me to!!!

This whole thing really works, isn´t that COOL???

Of course I knew that already (that it works, I mean), this was just the first time I was really blown away, before there have been subtle things like not worrying or getting upset about small things.
This time, for me, it was major – my subconscious mind actually reacted in a way that was diametrically opposed to how I would have reacted before and, more important, there was no conscious choice involved!!!
None was necessary and that´s what blows me away!!!

And so this experience at the hotel inspired some soul searching, it made me actually acknowledge how many positive changes I have made throughout this course so far – and there are still nine more weeks to go.
I will not get into details here, this is starting to become pretty lengthy as it is, let me just say that so much that was once hard is becoming easy, life has lost it´s roughness and become so much smoother, and I´m happier, more harmonious than before – most importantly I love myself, my life and the people in it, have gained knowledge of my power, developed the courage to dare and the faith to do!
Do what?
Nothing special – just live MY life, the life of my SELF – uncolored by anything but the desire in my heart to be the best I can be!
In what?
In service, to find the core of what I´m best suited to do and to execute those tasks with excellence!
Would You?

That´s how powerful this course is, guys and gals, and I wish it upon each and everyone I know – if You´re not in this time, the next launch is late September and You just need to leave Your name and email at the end of this post to get on the list for early notification.

And, it´s a pay-it-forward scholarship – You´re in the course for a buck!
Why not try it out???

So, let´s end this with some favorite parts of this weeks readings:

“11. It is the recognition of the self as an individualization of this Universal Intelligence that enables the individual to control those forms of intelligence which have not yet reached this level of self-recognition; they do not know that this Universal Intelligence permeates all things ready to be called into action; they do not know that it is responsive to every demand, and they are therefore in bondage to the law of their own being.
12. Thought is creative and the principle on which the law is based is sound and legitimate and is inherent in the nature of things; but this creative power does not originate in the individual, but in the universal, which is the source and foundation of all energy and substance; the individual is simply the channel for the distribution of this energy.
13. The individual is simply the means by which the universal produces the various combinations which result in the formation of phenomena, which depends upon the law of vibration, whereby various rates of rapidity of motion in the primary substance form new substances only in certain exact numerical ratios.
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20. So with understanding; men are continually making progress in the methods which they use to come into communication with the Universal Mind and its infinite possibilities.
21. The Universal Mind manifests itself in the objective, through the principle of attraction that each atom has for every other atom, in infinite degrees of intensity.
22. It is by this principle of combining and attracting that things are brought together. This principle is of universal application and is the sole means whereby the purpose of existence is carried into effect.
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28. The Universal Mind is static Mind or Substance in equilibrium. It is differentiated into form by our power to think. Thought is the dynamic phase of mind.
29. Power depends upon consciousness of power; unless we use it, we shall lose it, and unless we are conscious of it, we cannot use it.
30. The use of this power depends upon attention; the degree of attention determines our capacity for the acquirement of knowledge which is another name for power.
31. Attention has been held to be the distinguishing mark of genius. The cultivation of attention depends upon practice.
32. The incentive of attention is interest; the greater the interest, the greater the attention; the greater the attention, the greater the interest, action and reaction; begin by paying attention; before long you will have aroused interest; this interest will attract more attention, and this attention will produce more interest, and so on. This practice will enable you to cultivate the power of attention.”
Charles Haanel, “The Master Key System”, Part XVIII

For me it all, once more, boils down to Love because it´s very easy to be interested in something we love. And interest leads to attention which brings the object of our interest into our lives through manifestation!
You might want to review my post from a few weeks back:
To Believe or not to Believe
for further thoughts on the subjects of Love and Belief that weaves our lives together!

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