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Back and gone again….

So, if you’ve been following me at all you know by now that not much has happened on this blog for  quite some time. And as much as I wanted to keep up some good content, I just did not have it in me to write here… My apologies!
As it turned out, taking what I thought at the time was the toughest kick in the balls ever, actually was probably the best thing that ever happened to me.
I’ll let you be the judge, here’s the story:
As you might remember I moved back from Cyprus to Sweden in late December 2015 to be with my wife, just to learn that she “needed time for herself” which then turned out she wanted a divorce. 
As my good friend Mark J likes to say: “You gotta love irony!”
To say I was shocked was an understatement and getting the news in small pieces didn’t help much…
I even asked her if there was someone else which she denied.
Anyway, she moved out, got her stuff and on February 8th the divorce was sealed in court. I remember writing in my journal that this was somehow a relief as it finalized the matter and I could walk away from the last hope of a reunion. What if I’d know…
With perfect timing I went to Holland just before Easter to participate in a plant medicin healing ceremony March 24-25 were I finally leveraged what I learned the last years and released a horrific feeling of inadequacy I had carried since the age of 10 and that had been ever present over the years. Suddenly it was no more and I’m convinced that if it hadn’t been for the work with MK I couldn’t have done it this time either.
The same week my ex wife had returned to Cyprus for a few days to get the things she left in the apartment and I found it difficult to understand at the time why she flew down for 4 days when I just as well could bring her things with me to Sweden in June.
Meeting her for lunch the following Tuesday to get the key for the Cyprus apartment back she tells me she met someone and I said something like “well, that was likely to happen sooner or later”.
She then discloses that it’s her therapeut and teacher whom I referred her to years earlier and I always considered a friend.
As I had told several mutual friends, who’d asked me about them, that he never would behave so unethically and out of integrity, I could not help to break out in a booming laughter…
Later that week I met with him over a coffee and he reveals that Maria has flirted with him and hit on him since the fall of 2013, 6 months+ before she and I married.
While I’ll never gonna be able to understand how someone can enter a marriage and at the same time hit on another guy (and that’s probably a good thing not to understand) I had a really hard time accepting and digesting that I’d been living 2,5 years in a lie of someone else’s making.
I felt betrayed, used, played with and deserted…
The upside was that the old ugly feeling of inadequacy was still gone and the whole situation must sort of have been the ultimate test for that 😉
After a couple of months with Netflix and HBO therapy (with or without some red wine), working through the last season of Game of Thrones, the entire Vikings and True Blood as well as some more I already forgotten, I had the opportunity to focus on service to other people at the live events in Kauaii. Returning from that beautiful island in much better shape, with deepened friendships, lots of new good friends and so many reminders how wonderful, honest and sincere people really can be.
What finally did it for me was going into the mountains for a good two weeks by myself (totally different story starting here: http://offthegridhiker.com/tours/the-start-hike-of-2016-day-1/).
For months doing almost anything to avoid thinking I threw myself into an environment where thinking was about the only thing I had to engage in, besides walking, of course. 
Same parts of the tour demanded total focus with every step, though for the most part my thoughts could wander freely and about 14 days in it hit me like a sledge hammer….
 
In late spring 2011 I met a girl who was still in her previous marriage, explaining to me that it was over in every other way than on paper and they were more or less like sister and brother living together. Still it took more than 10 month to convince her to get divorced as she didn’t “want to hurt his feelings”.
 
So, how blind must I have been…?
 
Getting into a relationship with a woman who proved to me from the start that she, without a shadow of a doubt, was ok with cheating and starting a new relationship while still married…
And I seriously thought that, just because we talked about it and she agreed to be upfront, she would suddenly change in that matter…
 
Oh, oh, oh…sh*****t….
 
Law of karma at work here and I was certainly NOT consciously aware of the consequences of my choice back then 😜
 
I can tell you it took all my training to not giving myself grief about it but accept the learning experience and take 100% responsibility for my choices…
 
…and as I did the pain went away, I felt alive, really thrivingly awesome, for the first time in months.
 
The really amazing thing here is that, as I just talked to my mastermind partner about, only recently I observed that “being the observer” and “conscious about the consequences of my choices at the time I make them” had become natural in my life.
I don’t know if two years is an average, short och prolonged time span to “get there”, though I can only say that it’s been worth all the struggle!
 
Anyway, there’s the story behind my absence from this blog and the reason why I’m moving over to masterkey.offthegridhiker.com
Hope to see you there, naturally I continue email about new posts and other goodies!
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Peace // Claes

To decide or not to decide – that´s the question…

This is the week after the MKMMA Live Event in Kauai 2015, showcasing one of the most life changing,mind boggling and valuable events of my life I´M almost overwhelmed be the support, love and connection I feel from all the wonderful people I´ve met during these days.
The MK experience is all about taking charge of our life and to learn a very practical way of doing just that – I wish it upon You and Your loved ones, give it a shot and see how You like Your “new You”!

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Week 16 – To Believe or not to Believe…

Kindness

This week we´re focusing on kindness in the Master Key Experience, kindness that we observe around us and also our own kindness to others.
The effects are remarkable, already after a few days I felt more harmonious, happy and content with my life!
Of course it seems obvious now that this resource for happiness was always there for the taking, I just did not consider it until suggested in the MK.
I hadn´t thought of it, it was not part of my beliefs which leads us to the main topic of this post….
I remember a question I read many years ago in a blog post by Randy Gage:

“Does this belief serve me?”

As my life at the time was far from where I wanted it to be, I know the answer was: NO!!!

Challenges:

  1. I didn´t know what belief didn´t serve me…belief3
  2. I didn´t know what belief would serve me…
  3. If I had I woulnd´t have known how to change it…

That´s kinda defines the term tough luck…

Years later I took the Go90Grow course and in the “Think & Grow Rich” part of it I learned how a THOUGHT charged by FEELING create a BELIEF that causes an ACTION which produces a RESULT

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So this brought up as many questions as there were given answers:

  1. What results do I strive for?
  2. What actions are necessary to perform to produce those results?
  3. What beliefs do I need to create that will trigger the necessary actions?
  4. What feelings need to charge my thoughts?
  5. What thoughts do I need to entertain?

And that helped a lot!

So where do I go with this?Always do_

Well, there is probably as many answers to that question as there are people reading this blog post. Everyone has, or at least should have, different answers to the questions above and that goes for the last one as well.

The reason for that is that we have to DECIDE!!!

Decide what we want! What we need to do to get it! What we have to give up! What we are willing to give up to reach our dream! Decide what feelings we want to feel, what emotions we want to experience!

Remember: DMP + PMA + WPOA + MMA

And then… Determine what is the  discrepancy between where we are and where we want to be!

“The difference between my current reality and my vision is defined by the gap between the person I am and the person I am becoming!”

And the gap can only be closed by thoughts, which means we are in total control of closing it!!!

“17. Therefore, to control thought is to control circumstances, conditions,
environment, and destiny.”
Charles Haanel, “The Master Key System”, Part 16

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So lets go about that:

“18. How then are we to control thought; what is the process? To think is to create a
thought, but the result of the thought will depend upon its form, its quality and its
vitality.
19. The form will depend upon the mental images from which it emanates; this will
depend upon the depth of the impression, the predominance of the idea, the clarity
of the vision, the boldness of the image.
20. The quality depends upon its substance, and this depends upon the material of
which the mind is composed; if this material has been woven from thoughts of
vigor, strength, courage, determination, the thought will possess these qualities.
21. And finally, the vitality depends upon the feeling with which the thought is
impregnated. If the thought is constructive, it will possess vitality; it will have life,
it will grow, develop, expand, it will be creative; it will attract to itself everything
necessary for its complete development.”
Charles Haanel, “The Master Key System”, Part 16

So let us connect back to “belief”:

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What this tells us is that the word stems from the verb “leubh”: to care, desire, like, love(!)

So do You LOVE Your DMP???

Of course You do!!!

And that´s all it takes, remember:
a THOUGHT charged by FEELING create a BELIEF that causes an ACTION which produces a RESULT

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Week 13 – Merry Christmas

Merry Christmas and a Happy new Year!

Never before have these words rang as true with me as this year, never did they resonate so thoroughly with the center of my being, my heart and my soul!

“1. It has been the tendency, and, as might be proved, a necessity for science to
seek the explanation of everyday facts by a generalization of those others which
are less frequent and form the exception. Thus does the eruption of the volcano
manifest the heat which is continually at work in the interior of the earth and to
which the latter owes much of her configuration.
2. Thus does the lightning reveal a subtle power constantly busy to produce
changes in the inorganic world, and, as dead languages now seldom heard were
once ruling among the nations, so does a giant tooth in Siberia, or a fossil in the
depth of the earth, not only bear record of the evolution of past ages, but thereby
explains to us the origin of the hills and valleys which we inhabit today.
3. In this way a generalization of facts which are rare, strange, or form the
exception, has been the magnetic needle guiding to all the discoveries of inductive
science.
4. This method is founded upon reason and experience and thereby destroyed
superstition, precedent and conventionality.”
Charles Haanel, “The Master Key System”, Part 13

Now in the 13th week of the Master Key Experience I can look back and see why I feel that way and the answer lies in the “Law of Growth” faithfully applied and expressed in a POA (plan of action) executed daily and in the other techniques we´ve learned throughout this course.

I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious and happy!

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“Part Thirteen which follows tells why the dreams of the dreamer come true. It explains the law of causation by which dreamers, inventors, authors, financiers, bring about the realization of their desires.
It explains the law by which the thing 
pictured upon our mind eventually becomes our own.”
Charles Haanel, “The Master Key System”, Part 13 Intro

So, dreams come true, and at some point during the last three or so months (and, frankly, I don´t think it happened at a single occasion)  this fact really took hold of me and permeated my being to the degree that I know that I know that I know this system works.
Not just for others but for me….

“18. What, then, is the proper method of procedure? What are we to think in orderEmerson_destined
to secure what we really desire? What you and I desire, what we all desire, what
every one is seeking, is Happiness and Harmony. If we can be truly happy we shall
have everything the world can give. If we are happy ourselves we can make others
happy.
19. But we cannot be happy unless we have, health, strength, congenial friends,
pleasant environment, sufficient supply, not only to take care of our necessities but
to provide for those comforts and luxuries to which we are entitled.”
Charles Haanel, “The Master Key System”, Part 13

I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious and happy!

And, yes I am harmonious and I am happy – more now then I can remember I ever was before!
Probably there was a time during childhood, before the “concrete” and the “river of dreams” had worked there wicked magic, when I was in that natural, innocent state of innate happiness and harmony that is the birthright of everyone of us!
Then I lost “it”, as so many of us do, and it took all these years to rediscover that state to the degree I am at today, knowing that there´s nothing to fear, that there´s only good, that everything I can possibly want is possible to achieve. 

“23. Thought is a spiritual activity and is therefore creative, but make no mistake,
thought will create nothing unless it is consciously, systematically, and
constructively directed; and herein is the difference between idle thinking, which is
simply a dissipation of effort, and constructive thinking, which means practically
unlimited achievement.
Emerson_what lies24. We have found that everything we get comes to us by the Law of Attraction. A
happy thought cannot exist in an unhappy consciousness; therefore the
consciousness must change, and, as the consciousness changes, all conditions
necessary to meet the changed consciousness must gradually change, in order to
meet the requirements of the new situation.
25. In creating a Mental Image or an Ideal, we are projecting a thought into the
Universal Substance from which all things are created. This Universal Substance is
Omnipresent, Omnipotent and Omniscient. Are we to inform the Omniscient as to
the proper channel to be used to materialize our demand? Can the finite advise the
Infinite? This is the cause of failure; of every failure. We recognize the
Omnipresence of the Universal Substance, but we fail to appreciate the fact that
this substance is not only Omnipresent, but is Omnipotent and Omniscient, and
consequently will set causes in motion concerning which we may be entirely
ignorant.”
Charles Haanel, “The Master Key System”, Part 13

And that´s about what I´ve done these last few weeks and months, by following the instructions I´ve bombarded my subconscious mind, from every conceivably angle, with what I want!!!

No wonder this is a Merry Christmas!!!
It´s also a very Harmonious and Happy Christmas!!!

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