Week 5 – Opinions…what the ***?

So, one of the assignments for this week and next is to eliminate giving our opinions, which I found out is a lot easier said than done.

What is an opinion anyway?
Well, the dictionary states: “a belief or judgment that rests on grounds insufficient to produce complete certainty”fact_or_opinion

And couldn´t we as well call it:
A statement made out of habit, preferably our own habit,though often impressed on us by others without us questioning or thinking it over before accepting it as our own?

 

Haanel writes in Part 5: 
“8. This, then, is the way we are consistently creating and recreating ourselves; we are today the result of our past thinking, and we shall be what we are thinking today, the Law of Attraction is bringing to us, not the things we should like, or the things we wish for, or the things some one else has, but it brings us “our own,” the things which we have created by our thought processes, whether consciously or unconsciously. Unfortunately, many of us are creating these things unconsciously.”

Does this mean that we created our lives, as they are today, by habitually repeating opinions that haven´t even been our own?
Could it be that by giving my opinion I prevent myself from receiving new insight and the opportunity to expand my thinking and my mind by instead of giving my opinion stating an observation or asking a question that stimulates new thoughts?

If this is so then giving my opinion on anything is defaulting to my old blueprint, isn´t it?
Or are my opinions just a part of the cement, covering the golden buddha?

So, is that so? Interesting question, isn´t it?

“9. If either of us were building a home for ourselves, how careful we would be in 
regard to the plans; how we should study every detail; how we should watch the material and select only the best of everything; and yet how careless we are when it comes to building our Mental Home, which is infinitely more important than any physical home, as everything which can possibly enter into our lives depends upon the character of the material which enters into the construction of our Mental Home.
10. What is the character of this material? We have seen that it is the result of the impressions which we have accumulated in the past and stored away in our subconscious Mentality. If these impressions have been of fear, of worry, of care, of anxiety; if they have been despondent, negative, doubtful, then the texture of the material which we are weaving today will be of the same negative material. Instead of being of any value, it will be mildewed and rotten and will bring us only more toil and care and anxiety. We shall be forever busy trying to patch it up and make it appear at least genteel.
11. But if we have stored away nothing but courageous thought, if we have been optimistic, positive, and have immediately thrown any kind of negative thought on the scrap pile, have refused to have anything to do with it, have refused to associate with it or become identified with it in any way, what then is the result? Our mental material is now of the best kind; we can weave any kind of material we want; we can use any color we wish; we know that the texture is firm, that the material is solid, that it will not fade, and we have no fear, no anxiety concerning the future; there is nothing to cover, there are no patches to hide.” Charles Haanel “The Master Key System” Part 5

So, if our opinions do so much damage in our lives, isn´t it important to take a look at why we so easily accept the public opinion of our time and make it our own?

Napoleon Hill writes in “Think & Grow Rich”:
2014-05-18 07.49.22Let us now examine human behavior when this fear affects people in connection with the more important events of human relationship. Take for example practically any person who has reached the age of “mental maturity” (from 35 to 40 years of age, as a general average), and if you could read the secret thoughts of his mind, you would find a very decided disbelief in most of the fables taught by the majority of the dogmatists and theologians a few decades back.

Not often, however, will you find a person who has the courage to openly state his belief on this subject. Most people will, if pressed far enough, tell a lie rather than admit that they do not believe the stories associated with that form of religion which held people in bondage prior to the age of scientific discovery and education.

Why does the average person, even in this day of enlightenment, shy away from denying his belief in the fables which were the basis of most of the religions a few decades ago? The answer is, “because of the fear of criticism.” Men and women have been burned at the stake for daring to express disbelief in ghosts. It is no wonder we have inherited a consciousness which makes us fear criticism. The time was, and not so far in the past, when criticism carried severe punishments – it still does in some countries.

The fear of criticism robs man of his initiative, destroys his power of imagination, limits his individuality, takes away his self-reliance, and does him damage in a hundred other ways. Parents often do their children irreparable injury by criticising them. The mother of one of my boyhood chums used to punish him with a switch almost daily, always completing the job with the statement, “You’ll land in the penitentiary before you are twenty.” He was sent to a Reformatory at the age of seventeen. Criticism is the one form of service, of which everyone has too much. Everyone has a stock of it which is handed out, gratis, whether called for or not. One’s nearest relatives often are the worst offenders. It should be recognized as a crime (in reality it is a crime of the worst nature), for any parent to build inferiority complexes in the mind of a child, through unnecessary criticism. Employers who understand human nature, get the best there is in men, not by criticism, but by constructive suggestion. Parents may accomplish the same results with their children. Criticism will plant FEAR in the human heart, or resentment, but it will not build love or affection.”

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Sounds a tad like “The red Pencil Syndrome” Mark J talks about, doesn´t it?

Anyone recognizing something here?
And what the *** shall we do about it?

Once again we could look to Haanel:
14. There is a fine estate awaiting a claimant. Its broad acres, with abundant crops, running water and fine timber, stretch away as far as the eye can see. There is a mansion, spacious and cheerful, with rare pictures, a well-stocked library, rich hangings, and every comfort and luxury. All the heir has to do is to assert his heirship, take possession, and use the property. He must use it; he must not let it decay; for use is the condition on which he holds it. To neglect it is to lose possession.15. In the domain of mind and spirit, in the domain of practical power, such an estate is yours. You are the heir! You can assert your heirship and possess, and use this rich inheritance. Power over circumstances is one of its fruits, health, harmony and prosperity are assets upon its balance sheet. It offers you poise and peace. It costs you only the labor of studying and harvesting its great resources. It demands no sacrifice, except the loss of your limitations, your servitudes, your weakness. It clothes you with self-honor, and puts a scepter in your hands.
16. To gain this estate, three processes are necessary: You must earnestly desire it. You must assert your claim. You must take possession.”
 Charles Haanel “The Master Key System” Part 5

What if our opinions are part of the “limitations” Haanel writes about? Or are they an expression of weakness?
Maybe they will disappear miraculously through “labor of studying and harvesting it´s great resources”?
Or doing all of the above will synergistically ease the process and speed up the progress?2014-10-26 11.16.27

Anyway, I feel as freedom from opinion would give me a more relaxed and harmonious state of mind!

Thanks for taking the time to read, I appreciate You!

 

 

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16 thoughts on “Week 5 – Opinions…what the ***?

  1. Maria

    You put it together nicely! well, as always 😛
    I’m glad we can do this thing together and be a “Watchman” of each others sayings and opinions so they don’t sneak out as easily as they did before:-) <3

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  2. Christel Waltman

    Excellent post,Claes..well stated. Goes to bring near why we have two ears to listen and only one mouth/tongue to speak…I know i need such reminder from time to time 🙂
    Your serious on this journey and thus are making great strides, congrats!

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  3. Cheryl

    Fantastic Blog Claes – there powerful point too ask questions instead of giving opinions. Thanks for sharing fellow Master minder.

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    1. Claes Wallenberg Post author

      Thanks, Cheryl, it actually didn´t come natural for me at the time and, boy, is it useful :-D!!!
      Would You mind mentioning Your URL? I´d like to read Your stuff as well!

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  4. Charli

    I also had a very difficult time not expressing my opinion this week! When I noticed it happening it produced a variety of internal thoughts about why it was that I was wanting to express myself, and that process was interesting to analyze. All of the exercises I’ve found to be very thought provoking–and I love that! Great post! Very well written and congrats on getting your “pr” posted!

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  5. Sandra Owen

    Great post Claes. You have really taken the time to think and study this. I like your quotes from Haanel and Hill. It’s amazing how we all just give our opinions on so many things that really we have no expert knowledge in. It can make for entertaining conversation I guess but does it really serve us?

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  6. christina chiba

    Wonderful blog! Helps understand the fall back of the world to give opinions without expertise of which I can say I am one of them, but not after this week… This magic when you realize that you don’t have to have an opinion on everything is freeing to simply enjoy the world around us.

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  7. Chantal

    Your blog gives me input to think deeper about the “no opinion”- assignment and to dig even deeper with it. So, thank you for that, Claes. Have a great day!

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